The problem is, when we start to place conditions on when, or how, or why we love ourselves, we’re not practicing self-love at all – what we’re creating is a transactional agreement that robs us of our joy. Because each time we inevitably break that agreement, we slowly chip away at our self-worth, until we lose our ability to appreciate what makes us unique – and accept ourselves as we are.

Imagine this: you wake up each morning excited to take on the day’s challenges, confident that you’re equipped to tackle whatever comes your way. You feel alive and at ease, calm and at peace – living in alignment with the unique skills, priorities, and passions that make you, you.

Just over a week ago, I celebrated my twin sister’s wedding on our shared birthday – a scheduling choice that initially prompted disappointment, but ultimately flooded me with gratitude for the most unforgettable celebration I’ve experienced to date.

As I reflected on my birthday weekend and my surpassed expectations, I took a step back and surveyed the past year as a whole– recognizing that the reality, too, exceeded my wildest expectations.

I share all this to highlight the fact that it is my faith and hope in something greater than myself that continually inspires me to dream a little bigger and reach a little higher. It is my belief in myself and the saving power of love and kindness that defines the way I interact with the world around me. It is my belief in the seemingly impossible that encourages me to choose the high road and never stop searching for the silver lining.

Once we recognize that we as human beings have limited energy stores—coupled with limitless potential – we begin to understand the significance of tuning in with our unique energetic needs and truly listening to our bodies. Because when we’re each able to show up as the most aligned versions of ourselves, we are empowered to step into our potential and create a more balanced reality.

What I realized was that without a constant barrage of content and implicit perspectives, I learned to turn inward and delve deeper for my own point of view that had gotten buried under all the others. And as I shook off all the misplaced beliefs that made me doubt my vision and purpose, I re-connected with my inner strength and re-ignited my passion.

Find what inspires you and what motivates you, and don’t let it out of your sight. Be pragmatic, but don’t lose your ability to dream. Keep opening doors, and windows, and everything in between – because they won’t all lead you to your unique path – but you won’t know until you have the courage to turn the handle.

Grounding yourself in gratitude can shape the way you approach stressful situations, and can even enhance productivity during hectic periods at work.